Protocol and Etiquette – Fun facts from around the world
An unintentional faux pas can be committed when you are meeting your new in-laws or at a multicultural event
Here are a few tips you may want to note.
Fun Facts:
Czech Republic: Never applaud in a church, no matter what the occasion is, a wedding, or even a concert.
Denmark: Never get up from the dining table until the host or hostess does.
France: when you go to the dining table, let your host indicate where you should sit.
German: Never drink until your host or hostess begins at a dinner party.
Hungary: at a formal party, you must wait to be introduced, but at an informal one, you can introduce yourself.
Italy: a man should always pour wine. It is considered unfeminine for a woman to pour wine.
Spain: Everyone says “chin, chin” and chime glasses before a toast.
China: The most senior person is introduced first.
Thailand: when dining, a spoon and fork are used, and knives are rarely placed on the table.
United States: dining Americans keep their left hand in their lap and eat with their right hand.
Greetings:
Greetings are one of the most important things you need to get right; think about it: a greeting is your first impression, and you can never make a first impression.
In North America, having a firm handshake and looking someone in the eye is very important, but that isn’t true worldwide.
In India, the greeting is hands placed in a praying position, about chest height, and a slight bow.
In Japan, it is a bow with arms to the side. The relationship with the person will dictate the level of the bow; your boss or company owner gets a lower bow than your co-worker. Older people also get lower bows, for example. Now, in Japan, people do give foreigners a handshake, but it is not firm. It is gentle and quick.
In French-speaking countries, you kiss on the cheek, a light brushing of the cheek (an air kiss if the person is not very close to you) as a hello. Business meeting a light handshake is fine.
Some East African tribes greet each other by spitting at each other’s feet.
You start with a handshake in Russia, but a good bear hug is the way to go.
In some Islamic countries, it may be forbidden for unrelated men and women to touch; men never offer their hands to women as a greeting.
In Austria, handshakes should be firm, and kissing a woman’s hand is still polite as a form of hello.
These are just a few quick examples of Greetings.
Forms of Address:
In North America, using someone’s first name in business and personal situations is quite common. But this is not true for the rest of the world.
In most countries, when first meeting someone, it is essential to use Mr. or Mrs. (Miss, Ms.) before their family name until you have been told you can call them by their given name. That brings me to an important point. Given Names.
In most countries, your first name (the name that appears first on a business card or birth certificate) is not really your given name (the name the person is called). For example, in Asia countries, the family name may appear first on business cards, followed by the given name. Tominaga, Keiko in the US would be Keiko Tominaga.
In some countries, the first name may be a family name given to everyone in that family, or what we (in English-speaking countries) would call a Middle name is actually the given name.
Marie is a popular family name in Catholic French-speaking countries in Central America; many times, Marie is listed first but is not the person’s given name.
Before you meet someone, check to make sure or ask him or her for his or her given name.
Gift Giving:
Business gift-giving in some countries can be a tradition that is a sign of respect, friendship, and appreciation.
For example, in Japan, when you go away for a holiday (vacation), you must bring something back to your co-workers. It can be a group gift of candies and/or sweets from the place you went. If you are meeting a client (and traveling to Japan for the meeting), you want to make a good impression. You should bring a gift from your country, and there should be some thought (a story) behind the gift. It should never be something that has your company logo on it. However, in China, group gifts with your logo are acceptable, and individual personal gifts could be viewed as bribery.
If you are going to a client’s home for dinner (in Europe, Japan, South and Central America), you should bring a gift as a small thank you for the invitation to the person’s home. If they have children, a small gift for the children is also very nice and goes a long way. Again, it should never have your company logo on it; if it is wine, you should never expect it to be one you drink at dinner.
If you are going to meet your in-laws, you should bring flowers for your mother-in-law and if your father-in-law drinks, a bottle of his favorite wine or spirit.
Please note all of these are generalizations, and it is important to ask your host or hostess what the correct protocol or etiquette is if you are unclear. It will make them happy you care enough about their culture to ask.